They all count. But there are certain people you love who do something else;
they define how you classify what love is supposed to feel like. These are the most important people in your life…but there’s still one more tier to all this; there is always that one person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it always happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of those lovable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable… This is because the individual who embodies your personal definition of love does not really exist. The person is real, and the feelings are real— but you create the context. And context is everything. The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they’re often just the person you happen to meet the first time you really, really want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose.
Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else.
”Killing Yourself to Live by Chuck Klosterman (via thechocolatebrigade)
AHA! that explains it
(via makeawkwardsexualadvances)
Reblogged from Hello, Thoughts.
